1. This is not a question of balancing flow. It is a matter of design. (RAW WATER SYSTEM ONLY)
This is how I see it, in other words, MY OPINION
TWO hoses calls for RESTRICTED gasket to restrict flow to ELBOW
ONE hose to exhaust manifold calls for UNRESTRICTED flow to ELBOW.
Design 1. TWO HOSES
TWO hoses, one to manifold and one to elbow. Cold fresh water flows all the time to ELBOW keeping exhaust cool to keep rubber from melting. Once thermostat fully opens to normal temperature that cold flow reduces to elbow and thermostat controlled water now flows thru manifold and out elbow thru open slots in gasket between manifold and elbow and mixes with COLD water from input hose to elbow. If spacers are used bottom gasket is unrestricted and upper gasket is restricted, Open gasket below spacer keeps spacer cool, if restricted gasket was used between manifold and spacer, spacer would get very hot..
Design 2. ONE HOSE
ONE single hose to bottom of Manifold ONLY. This design should have UNRESTRICTED gaskets to allow maximum water flow all the time through the elbow to cool exhaust rubber. If spacer is used BOTH gaskets should be unrestricted.
Below are two pages from 1998-2001 service manual #24 (see note at bottom in red outline)
After reviewing two manuals it does not actually specify which gaskets to specifically use, restricted or unrestricted.
It clearly states to make sure you replace with the factory installed gaskets. so if you did not pay attention the final decision is up to you based on the note in the image I attached.
Next time, PAY ATTENTION