Tom, I can't explain your engine staling, but I can give you a few ideas on the cone clutch assembly.
In/around the "C" drives, Volvo went from the standard bronze sliding sleeve to a steel sliding sleeve and coated gear cups.
With either style sliding sleeve, metallic debris that has become lodged onto the sleeve surface can/may cause it to remain engaged and freeze up, so to speak, into one of the gear cups.
The fix with the bronze sleeve is a very careful cleaning of the oil grooves, and then a very careful lapping of the sleeve into each respective gear cup.
Here's an early bronze sliding sleeve transmission that has been disassembled.
As you can see, the gear cups are just shinny polished steel....... No coating.
With the all steel sliding sleeve, the gear cups are coated with a special blend of friction material.
These cannot be lapped!
However, the sliding sleeve oil grooves can be cleaned, and in some cases this may solve the issue.
Here's a steel sleeve and one driven gear/cup.
While you cannot see the cup surface, it will be coated with what would appear to be a black oxide looking substance.
Note the small oil grooves.
There is no Volvo Penta procedure listed for lapping the bronze sleeve. I suppose they want us to purchase a new gear set/sliding sleeve.
At minimum, you'll need to pull the transmission and disassemble it so that the two driven gears, vertical shaft and sliding sleeve can be removed, and the cups and sleeve surfaces inspected.
All of this can be done without any re-shimming if you keep track of where all shims are now.
It's actually a pretty straightforward procedure for someone with a decent level of mechanical skills.
BTW, these transmissions will ship in the USPS flat rate box for around $16 each way.
I do this work for people who are not near a V/P repair facility.