So thats the video i watched to diagnose it, around the 6th minute of the video it shows the connector but I couldn't see or feel the pin and plate the pin slides into on my outboard.
I also don't have my carbs and front plate off like i think he does so i guess that might be the only thing to...
I recently did a impeller replacement on my outboard and am having trouble re-installing the lower unit back in. To drop the lower unit i took the cotter pin off the shift cable bracket and was able to push in the cylinder connected to the bracket, which helped the lower unit actually detatch...