Remove the remote cable from the engine for simplicity of operation. 2 bolts/nuts hold the R bearing carrier, one above and one below the prop/prop shaft. Remove the two bolts/nuts. Back out the bearing carrier and the prop shaft (as a unit) just enough to be able to move the engines shift linkage....your hand on where the remote control connects.
You probably will be able to move the shifter only slightly in one direction, not the other as you move the prop back and forth trying to "feel" that the cam follower (pointed like a bullet) is back on the cam plate and is in one of the 3 detents. Working the prop shaft in and out as needed, while moving the shift linkage back and forth, first find that you now have the cam follower back on the shifter cam and then find the center detent which is the middle position on the prop shaft movement, and is N. The prop should be freewheeling if you are there.Run the R bearing carrier nuts back in and tighten.
Test the shifter to ensure that you can shift through FNR....you have to manually turn the prop without the engine running if you want to go to R gear...cog and slot interface, vertical sided.
This is how I would approach the probem. I am here at the computer and you are there. I never had this problem but if what happened to you, happened to me, this is my course of action. Good luck.