Thanks for all the info guys! Sorry for the late response, i just didnt want to come back until i had tried some things. So i bought a new marine starting battery to finally and try starting it myself, hoping maybe he just had a lose connection or as stated above it wasnt in neutral. I cleaned up those connections, just the ones on the battery end with a brissel pad, i had the thick negative and thick positive cables running from the solenoid so it was clear what those were for. Other then that i had 1 single black much skinner connection i assumed was a ground so i put it on the ground side.
I made sure the boat was in neutral and throttle in start position before turning the key. I get no noises, no clicks, nothing just silence. motor does not turn over. So i used a one side of some car jumper cables to jump the solenoid and it turn over.
Naturally i assume it must be a bad solenoid then. All marine stores were closed (7:20p) so i just picked up the automotive equivalent to test the theory ( i understand the differences in corrision protection etc, i just wanted to give it a try and if it turns over, bring it back and run to the marine store.)
This dude not fix my problem. Still no clicks no nothing just dead silence, i didnt jump it since its a new solenoid and as mentioned i plan on taking this one back and getting a marine grade. Can someone point me in the right direction as to where to look next? So weird how its not the solenoid, i was convinced!