OK....easy thing first. The red and green light should come on for a second or two and then go off. If you had the PGM and the Charge lights....the PGM light will do the same, but the charge light will stay on. Evidently, you do not have the pgm and charge lights.
The part # for the main relay has change three times.
38580-ZW5-004
38580-ZW5-014
06380-ZW5-303
06380-ZW5-000
There were issues with the 303, so stay away from that one.
It is possible that you have a bad new main relay. Here are the steps to test it from the manual....
1) Remove the main relay.2) Connect the battery positive (+)terminal to the main relay black/yellow terminal and the battery negative (-) terminal to the main relay black terminal. There should be continuity between the white/yellow terminal and the yellow/black terminal.3) Connect the battery positive (+) terminal to the main relay white terminal and the battery negative (-)terminal to the main relay light green/red terminal. There should be continuity between the white/black terminal and the blue/yellow terminal. 4) Connect the battery positive (+)terminal to the main relay yellow/black terminal and the battery negative (-) terminal to the main relay light green/red terminal. There should be continuity between the white/black terminal and the blue/yellow terminal.5) If there is no continuity, replace the main relay.
Do not connect the battery for longer than 30 seconds. Wait for at least 1 minute before starting another check.
One (not in the book) way to check to see if the ECU is sending the ground to the main relay.....with everything connected, back probe the light green/red lead going to the main relay. Connect one lead of your meter to the backprobe on the green/red lead and the other lead of the meter to positive 12v on the motor (such as the big lug on the starter.) Turn the keyswitch to "on" and watch for a 2 second 12v reading.
If you do not get it, check the continuity from your backprobe to the pins on the connector at the ECU. There should be two. Disconnect the connector from the ECU when you do the continuity test so you do not harm the ECU.
If no ground; the continuity of the lead to the ECU is good; and you tested the main relay, the most likely culprit is the ECU.
Mike
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