Raritan:
Raritan water heaters manufactured before 1990 used a bolt-on heating element that was held in place by (4) bolts with 1/2" heads. It used a cylindrical rubber gasket (included with the replacement heating element) that went inside the hole when the original one has been removed. The best way to remove the existing one, is to first turn off the electric power to the water heater, then turn off the water pressure pump. Bleed the pressure from the lines by opening several water taps. Disconnect the two wires that run between the thermostat and the heating element. Remove the (4) mounting bolts, and hook the flange of the heating element with the claw end of a claw hammer, to break it loose and remove it.
The tank will drain. Allow it to finish draining, then clean out the cavity in the side of the water heater tank, removing the old cylindrical gasket. Insert the new gasket, and push the heating element into the hole. You'll notice that one side of the "U" tube has been flattened. That side should face "up". Replacement heating element, part # WH1A, $38.90.
If it were I, I'd only replace the heating element, for a couple of reasons: 1) it's the least expensive part to replace, 2) it's the most common part that goes bad.
Regarding the thermostat, it is relatively expensive, and may not need to be replaced (part # WH16, $99.98). They don't often go bad.
As far as the anode goes, if it hasn't been removed or replaced since 1981, I wouldn't even think about trying to replace it. It is the hot water "out" nipple that was included with the water heater when it left the factory. But since 1981, with it having been heated and cooled thousands of times - the chances are pretty slim that you'll be able to remove it from the tank, without risking ruining the whole tank. So, if the water heater has lasted all this time with the same anode inside, you'd be best advised to leave well enough alone. But if you feel adventurous, for a 6 gallon water heater, the replacement anode is part # 1790610, $35.00.